Monday 15th May
Raymond visited me
on Saturday morning. He has been a regular visitor since at least
2004. He has worked for many years with Charles on the PEASSA
projects. He also tries to support some elderly and disabled people,
but has no resources himself! We sat outside under the veranda and
chatted for an hour or more over a coffee.
In the afternoon I
headed for my little dam. I have to pass by Diven's house and shop on
route and he insisted that I had lunch with him – although I had
already eaten. After lunch he accompanied me to the lake.
I was surprised
how low the water was. It looked more like the scene I expect in
October or November – not May!! Areas that should be under water
were clear and I could walk on paths that shouldn't be exposed at
this time. The grass is almost gone – eaten already by the cattle.
This does not bode well for later in the year. I am told many wells
have already dried up and also some boreholes.
I saw a few egrets
but no other birds at the lake. This was also blamed on the lack of
rain.
While we sat by
the lake a congregation from the local church came down. The minister
waded into the lake and a number of parishioners came in turn to be
baptised.
Sunday is meant to
be a day of rest!! However here it starts for me with 3-4 Km walk to
Our Lady of the Wayside for Mass. The service officially starts at 10
hrs, though in practice it is usually 15 – 20 minutes later (as it
was yesterday). The singing is impressive with the typical African
natural harmonies. Mass lasts about 2hours, so although it starts
before our service in Cheltenham it finishes some time afterwards –
I like to think that Our Lady of the Wayside envelopes St. Gregory's
– a bit like a hug!
Of course at mass
there were further greetings. George, whose family has undergone
major troubles said everything was currently on track. Some
parishioners who were not around last week came to say hallo. I
checked whether there was a “Section” meeting this week and when
it was confirmed I arranged to meet someone later who would show me
the way.
I returned home
and had a bite to eat before heading off again for a shorter walk –
only 2-3 Km to go to the Small Christian Community “Section”
meeting. For many years now I have been a member of St. Veronica's
Small Christian Community. It is a group of parishioners who are
based in one of the poorest areas of Monze. We meet on Sunday
afternoons for some prayer and particularly to listen to next week's
reading and meditate on it. If a member is sick we often visit them
at their home and say some prayers with them. I was told that Queen,
whose son Brian was the first person to direct me to a meeting, had
died about a year back. Queen's was one of the few houses I knew and
often I would meet with her in order to locate the site of the
meeting, which is held at the house of one of the members. (We meet
in the garden – or yard, the house is usually one or two rooms -
too small in which to hold a meeting.)
This week some of
the members were at a church meeting so the numbers were down. In
fact there were just eight ladies and myself. None of the women spoke
fluent English and my Chitonga is still virtually non-existent, but
we managed after a fashion. After a while there was a lot of glancing
through the bible and a bit of confusion. It seemed that the person
with the programme, which included the reading, had not appeared.
They asked if I knew the reading – but I was at as much at a loss
as they were. I then had a thought and rang Dilys back in the UK. She
must have had her missal by her because she immediately gave me the
details I needed. It is a small world!!
We had a shortened
meeting and I returned to the Curia, having both been officially
welcomed to Monze and, soon after, escorted along the road, then
waved on my way!
It is still rare
that I walk anywhere without coming across old friends. Osman stopped
his bike and said hallo. Osman used to work in the stores at Monze
Hospital. During my early years at Monze I spent a lot of time
working in the stores, developing a stock control system and got to
know Osman quite well – to my shame I didn't recognise him, though
the voice was familiar. Most of my friends are aware that I have a
problem recognising faces – this is particularly true here where
the men all shave their heads! The women often wear wigs which is
another issue! There seems little I can do to solve the problem and
so I will continue to fail to recognise people I know quite well.
They are in good company since I failed to recognise Dilys the day
after we met at a dance – however, despite ignoring her the next
day, we have been happily married now for 47 years!!
The security guard
came around after I arrived back home and said I must be lonely! I
told him that I am happy to have some time alone and that I spend
most of my days with friends. He then said that he had a visitor
called Obert who wanted to see me and was that OK!
Sometimes walking
along the street someone comes up to me and says “Hallo, I have a
problem!” I don't like to ignore people so I usually listen and
then say that I cannot help, because most people I see have problems!
Occasionally I am willing to describe a person's problem in my blog,
or speak to friends and very occasionally someone will help!
Many years ago a
lad told me he had a problem. So I asked what this problem could be.
He said that he walked with a limp because one of his legs had grown,
but the other one – being artificial – hadn't!! He told me his
name was Obert.
When I returned to
England I mentioned this conversation with a friend and he offered to
give money to buy a new leg. However when I returned to Zambia I
couldn't find a boy called Obert. Other than his first name and
knowing he had an artificial leg, I had no information. The following
year a guy at church said “Hallo I am Obert”. Since then we have
become good friends. Obert is now a taxi driver and told me yesterday
that with help from his father, who is a builder, he is building his
own house. He is now married and his wife is expecting a child next
month. He is due to visit very shortly and take me to see his house
and his parents.
This morning
Bright visited my home. Bright is a security guard at Monze Mission
Hospital who again I have known for many years. He has a son, Brian,
who attended a special school for the deaf and managed to progress to
obtain his grade 12 certificate. Bright told me that he has almost
finished roofing a big house he has built and is in the process of
building another small house for chickens. I have visited his place a
number of times and his wife always cooks lovely food. I will try to
get along again this year if time permits.
We are fast
approaching the depths of winter here!! However, temperatures this
week are expected to reach 30°C
with a lot more sun than shade!!
I
am a great fan of Pope Francis and one of his instructions to his
priests is that they need to smell the sheep, by which I believe he
means that they must live among the people and not apart from them.
It would be very easy for me to travel around Monze in taxis,
frequent hotels and restaurants and enjoy the privileges of the
“white” man. However I much rather smell the sheep! I enjoy being
close to the people. I am not so naïve that I don't realise that
there will always be a big gap between me and my friends here in
Zambia. Even here I have electricity and water – we have only had
two short power cuts – each of about 15 mins. However, my house is
open to my friends. They are always very welcome to join me for a
coffee and perhaps a meal. I am happy for them to know about my life
in the UK and if they are comfortable I am happy to visit them at
home and perhaps join them for a drink or a meal. Of course if they
play pool then it's game on!! I am very keen to understand their
challenges and if I can help a little I will do my best to try. I
have a lot of friends in Monze so there are limits to what I can do.
Many
of my friends, like Obert, are driven to improve their lot and work
very hard to achieve a better life. I am pleased to be able to
provide an input here and there which will help in their quest. There
are some like Robert who I met earlier today who always have problems
and will always look for a bit extra. These too are struggling and
deserve a little, but next year they will have moved no further
forward!!
I
met Mrs Chaambwa at the railway crossing. She was surprised that I
didn't know that her husband Edward had died in October last year. I
met Edward some years back through an English Guy who went to Monze
Basic School when it was for “white” children only – it is now
a government school for local children. Edward had the idea that if
he could get in touch with some of these ex-pupils maybe they would
be able and willing to help renovate the school. I think that I was
contacted through my blog. I am not really sure what my role was
meant to be, but I made friends with Edward and acted as a link
between the ex-pupil and Edward. Personally I would have been happy
for Edward to project manage the project. He was in the best position
to understand the needs of the school and ensure that work was
carried out. I was happy to support him in what he felt was
necessary. Anyway I continued the friendship after the project and
met his wife. Edward used to take me to some of the bars for a drink.
I am sorry to here that another friend has died since I was last
around. Unfortunately I suspect he will not be the last.
I
have just returned from Visiting Obert's Mum. She set up a small
pre-school a few years back for some of the local children. Very few
can afford to pay anything so it is a constant struggle to raise
money to pay the teachers. In the past she has kept chickens and used
the profits for this purpose, but it is easy to use the profits and
not replace all the chickens – or fail to have enough to feed them!
She is hoping to start this project again. At her house there were a
group of parents together with their children who have a range of
disabilities. They were meeting to see how they can help each other.
One of the girls who had no speech responded to me with a wide smile.
If only we can find ways to communicate with such children – it is
clear that there is a lot going on in their minds and it must be so
frustrating not to be able to share it.
One
of Mrs Mazoka's (Oberts's Mum) former pre-school children was Nancy.
Nancy is a bright cheeky little girl who should hit the heights!!
This morning I saw her outside St. Vincent's School – next door to
the Curia. I wasn't sure that it was the same girl. She was looking
sad and not acknowledging me. A teacher saw me looking and asked if I
was being bothered by the children. I said that I wasn't being
bothered, but I thought the girl looked like Nancy. She confirmed
that it was Nancy and I told her that I had known Nancy over a number
of years. In 2017 Nancy had just started school and she ran to me
flinging her arms around me. Later I heard she got into trouble for
this – I don't think people realised that we were friends! I
thought this might have accounted for her reluctance yo acknowledge
me this time.
When
I arrived at Mrs. Mazoka's house Nancy was their, but a different
Nancy to the one I met this morning!! Very like the one I used to
know. She had regained her adorable character and beamed a smile from
ear to ear! I was so pleased, however she doesn't look much bigger
than two years ago and I worry that her life has gone down.
Obert's
new house is quite impressive and he has a decent piece of land with
it. There is still some work to do before Obert and his wife can move
in – such as putting down a floor!!
Obert
dropped me back and said he had three customers waiting for him so at
least he has some business and will make a little money today.
Jennipher
has just called around. She has been to see Delia, Diven's wife. She
has been able to provide some advice and is returning tomorrow to
take them to the hospital for some counselling and to arrange some
tests. I hope that at least some progress is made in diagnosing her
condition.
Chris